If you have read one of my previous blogs or follow me on social media, then you are fully aware of my stance regarding situationships and my transparency about how easy it is to fall into one.
Therefore, I want to provide you with some feasible and tangible tips that you can use if you find yourself in a situationship.
Say how you are feeling AND pay attention to their response
If you feel like you are in a situationship then more than likely you are in one. With that said, it is critical that you clearly and confidently state how you are feeling to that individual. In addition, pay attention to any gaslighting that may occur. If that person honors your feelings and makes a genuine effort to change the dynamics of that matter; kudos!! However, if not, then YOU must make a choice and decide if you plan to stay or leave.
Get to the root of how you got there
When you find yourself in a situationship after you swore up and down never to be in one again, it is important that you take a moment to pause and reflect on how things went left. Too often we get out of something without processing the situation. Failing to do so will cause you to overlook the patterns that you are making in this area. As a result, you can quickly find yourself back in the very thing you prayed God to take you out from.
Keep in the forefront of your mind that mistakes happen all the time with everyone! So please make sure that you forgive and show yourself some grace in this area. Remember, Rome was not built in a day so operating in a non-situationship mindset will take some time. Especially if that has been all you have been exposed to.
Write out a list
As elementary as this may sound, writing out a “Dos and Don’ts list” list of what you will and will not accept while dating may be a great approach to explore; especially if you want to be more intentional with dating.
I would even add having a licensed therapist (if you are in therapy) or a trusted friend or family member provide you with healthy feedback from that list.
God loves you WAYYYYYYYYYYY TOO MUCH to have you waste your precious time in a situationship and sell yourself short from experiencing a happy and healthy dating experience.