After reading my previous blog, "Defining and Understanding Situation-ships", you may feel empowered to finally get out of one or motivated to convince your friend to leave one.
This post will explore 5 ways that a person can break away from a situation-ship.
Please note that if you make a mistake, that it is not the end of the world; so get back up and try again!
1. WALK AWAY!!!
Walking away from an individual is never easy since feelings are involved. However, when you do the following things such as: deleting and blocking their number, deleting them from all social media platforms, erasing their pictures on your phone, and throwing away their gifts; the moving on process becomes bearable. During this process, you will miss the person because feelings do not vanish overnight but always keep in mind that the heart can be deceptive.
2. FIND A SAFE EAR TO TALK TO
Many people make the mistake of dealing with their problems on their own and wonder why their problems remain as problems.Therefore, having an ear to vent to is extremely necessary. I personally suggest that you vent to someone who shares the SAME belief and views on dating, relationships and/or marriage. There is no advantage in venting and seeking advice from someone who is content with the things that you despise or strive to avoid. For this purpose, once oneness is established and understood, you are clear to get your talk on.
Often, my close friends have talked me out of going back into situation-ships when I would vent to them about missing a guy. While I was operating off of my emotions, my friend's listening and nonjudgemental ears directed me towards making logical decisions.
3. TAKE A BREAK FROM DATING
Dating can be fun but it can also be time-consuming and emotionally draining. When dating does not go our way, we can become bitter and hateful. Therefore, taking a break can allow you to re-focus on YOU while learning about your wants and needs.
Often, people leave a situation only to jump right into another one because they have not really given themselves a chance to process and heal from the pain caused by the ordeal. When that occurs, dating is then used to fill a void and the same mistakes are usually made again.
Use this break to be selfish for once. Think about it, you have probably spent months trying to convince a person to take things to the next level so why not take that same energy to invest in yourself.
4. SEEK THERAPY
Sometimes, the only way to prevent previous habits from occurring again is to get to the root of the problem. Getting to the root can expose the underlying reasons of your choices and can help you make better decisions in the future. Therapy can also bring about new discoveries and hidden pains that can become enriching to the development of a better you.
5. GET A HOBBY AND PERFECT YOUR CRAFT
The thought of not having something to do on a Friday or Saturday night can be frightening to some so they would rather subject themselves to a unhealthy connection instead of occupying themselves in doing something they love. This newfound discovery of free time is the perfect opportunity to explore, embrace and perfect your gifts and talents. Furthermore, it is important to know that the more you do what you love, the more you realize that everyone you meet does not fit into your life.
I truly do hope that you are empowered to walk away from that situation-ship because 2018 has so much in store for you and the last thing you want to do is miss out on it.